I was the same. Had lots of gfs but a neighbour said he went to brothels and I googled and somehow found this site
With dating and courting I often spent time with timewasters, who just wanted free dinners then would look for the next date somewhere else. I can still date and meet women for relationships, but punting is a fun hobby where I can meet a lot of beautiful women, and not have to go through the coffees, dinner and dating rituals