Facebook scare

[aussiegaigin]

I've been seeing a ML semi-regularly for a few years now. We get on quite well personally, we have lunch together occasionally, and I have given her some help in her business (she MLs one day per week as a "hobby"). We have no romantic connections, although I sometimes think she would like to.

She doesn't know much about the real me. I've managed to hide my real name, work and personal status from her. The only communication channels have been an obscure mobile telephone number and WeChat.

So it came as a shock this morning when FB churned up its regular "people you might know" suggestions. Mostly these are "friends of friends" who I don't know, but this time this ML was there with no connections shown. My guess is that FB has linked my profile phone number (the obscure one) with her phone contacts.

My worry is that she will get a similar notification, with my real name on it. My profile is in private mode, and I don't think there is anything on it to directly identifying me (no personal picture), but she is not dumb.

I am not really worried about any possible repercussions, but it might be something for other members who give girls their numbers to consider.

[local]

I've been seeing a ML semi-regularly for a few years now. We get on quite well personally, we have lunch together occasionally, and I have given her some help in her business (she MLs one day per week as a "hobby"). We have no romantic connections, although I sometimes think she would like to.

So it came as a shock this morning when FB churned up its regular "people you might know" suggestions. Mostly these are "friends of friends" who I don't know, but this time this ML was there with no connections shown. My guess is that FB has linked my profile phone number (the obscure one) with her phone contacts.
I am not really worried about any possible repercussions, but it might be something for other members who give girls their numbers to consider.

Last year I swapped my main phone.
Recently I decided to use my old as my spare and repurpose the old spare.

I was diligent in wiping phones and doing factory resets.
This morning when testing something, I found that ringing myself brought up my details although they were NOT in the contacts.
Subsequent investigation shows that the last os update (android 4.4.X) added a new feature that you can autosearch for unknown caller-id and display discovery.

Now one thing I found after this, I decided to do a full search on the phone for certain patterns and bingo, found a few apps which should never be used on your phone unless it is totally seperate details and new email.
Email (not google) is dangerous.
BUT the MOST DANGEROUS is facebook. Linkedin is the next.
Keep your second phone totally divorced from your main.
even using sync on a mozilla program will get you in strife.

My second facebook is only every logged in in a PRIVATE session on my computer. Yes I do know what I am doing, its part of business.
One of the best solutions is a virtual machine on a memory stick, but don't die with it on your person in questionable circumstances, people will investigate :-)

[poundher]

Just block her.
Simple yet effective solution.
Just my 2 facebook cents.
Cheers.

[Babycat]

That's why I can't use my personal picture as FB avatar even though I really want to change it. Also I don't use phone number for my fb account.

[caff3ry]

Hmmmmmm, I don't think it's a problem for me at all. If an ML were to find me on Facebook I wouldn't mind so much. The only complication I'd imagine is if one my friends who I didn't know also punted and asked me about her. Then maybe it be a little awkward but nonetheless not the end of the world.

[Nejums]

Best to avoid keeping in touch with MLs outside the realm of your punting life altogether. I've only ever broken this cardinal rule with one ML and I'm dreading my ball and chain will find out I keep in touch with her on wechat. Still, luckily this ML knows not to message me unless I messaged her first. That and I've managed to convince the other half I don't really use wechat.

Having said that though, we are still ultimately playing with fire. Gotta be prepared to get burnt.

[sukeong]

Good thing I never use my fb. After reading this it makes me wonder if I will still continue punting if I ever decide to get married or be in a stable relationship. Having to worry about this, keeping track of that, fearing the SO finds out, not to mention all the technology stuff to figure out. Life is too short for that. But I guess it gives an insight to the double lives of wl and ml too. A lot of camouflage and hidden identity.

[Sam88]

Hmmmmmm, I don't think it's a problem for me at all. If an ML were to find me on Facebook I wouldn't mind so much. The only complication I'd imagine is if one my friends who I didn't know also punted and asked me about her. Then maybe it be a little awkward but nonetheless not the end of the world.

Because you're single and living the prime time of your life mate ;)

[Raybo]

I had the same issue. Facebook suggested we become friends because it recognised we contacted one another by phone. I even sent her a cheeky message. I dont really have an issue with this particular WL my personal details.

[24601]

I only ever installed FB app once on my phone, and that was over two years ago. I uninstalled it within the same day after I noticed that it's accessing my GPS data every hour or two.
Good thing I've got access control apps that tells me which app is doing something without my knowledge... I've been telling people not to use it ever since but not too many people understand how it's a big deal...

[local]

Seeing its been mentioned...

I do have wechat installed but using a hong king number which seems to solve issues, but a warning folks, NEVER use whatsapp << talk about intrusive.
I found whatsapp digs deep, very deep. As a test/demo on a friends phone, I found his last 5 girlfriends and their photo's. On my own old phone before I totally removed it it found an old girlfriends picture which I thought I had lost, I had last seen it in 2005 back on a Windows.ce.phone, where it found it I have still no idea. IT will also dig out photos of contacts, even if the phone number has been reallocated, it digs at any number which could be a telephone. It can add these into its app. It will freely go thru your galleries and effectively steal photos.
Be Warned. !!

But if can be very interesting at times....
another friends wife said she needed it to participate in a "mother's group" and she asked me to help.... I was quite surprised at the first photo it used for herself.... I really didn't think a fanny shot would be good idea :-)

[Nejums]

Did you send said fanny shot to yourself as a "test"? Hahaha

[Babycat]

I've seen some of my clients' fb but as I don't use my phone number for fb so they might not be able to see mine. Also starting to use fake wechat now, lol.

[garfield]

I've seen some of my clients' fb but as I don't use my phone number for fb so they might not be able to see mine. Also starting to use fake wechat now, lol.

If you frequently visit your clients fb, fb will know you are interested in their profile and will suggest you as friends to them. So eventually they will see you.

[Babycat]

If you frequently visit your clients fb, fb will know you are interested in their profile and will suggest you as friends to them. So eventually they will see you.
No, the info appears on fb suggestions, but I haven't had a closer look. Not interested in anyone. A bit upset that they're not whom I look for. But thanks for your warning. Will be careful.