The end of my journey

[Pussyeater13]

Hello fellow punters,
I'm done...I think. Read on for musings, what little wisdom I've acquired, or move on. You probably have better things to do!

This has been a very short journey for me, maybe a few months at most, but I think I'm done. Perhaps easier to stop - I'm married, that and the financial expense I should be focusing elsewhere, are good enough reasons to stop.

While I enjoy some of my experiences, I've generally found it unfulfiling - especially the FS joints.

A bit about me and what I'm after as that's very relevant here. I'm a people pleaser, I'm the kind of guy that while I'm paying for it, I derive pleasure from giving pleasure and if I can't give that, it takes away from my enjoyment. Keep that in mind as you read on.

I can't recall why I even started - I've never cheated before but for some reason I felt going into a massage shop and being tossed off is how I should do it.

There isn't much around my area but I found a place, went in, had a decent experience although was ripped off and so began my journey.

Here's my first gripe - wow there's alot of nuance in terms of what is offered. If you're rich enough to dish out as much as you like, it's fine, but if you're tight it's very easy to get disappointed when you realise that what you thought you're paying for isn't exactly as you'd imagined.

Anyway I've preferred RnT joints generally. Rven though it's clear up front what's about to happen (I don't care for massages), there is enjoyment in the build up and the occasion tease.

I've had sex at a couple of RnT joints, one of which I backed out of very quickly as there was either an STI involved or some awful hygiene. However the Seven Hills ones have been my favourite- while efficient, they've allowed me to pay for the room and girl in one (I hate paying for the room.and the girl on top), been very generous with their body, friendly, and no bullshit. Shoutout 7 Hills joints!

I toyed with the idea of FS places like Cowper- fortunately, I think, I never went through with it.
I went to one in Ryde and it was an awful experience, DFK advertised and not given. Girl was barely intimate, although she had a gorgeous bod. Not friendly, not for me. I told myself that was the last FS place I'd go to. I was wrong I did one more today, perhaps higher class, still not great.

For me it really comes down to that intimacy and I just don't get it. Now, maybe it's me. Genuinely don't think so though, I'm not bad looking and above all I'm very very kind. A few girls have noted this and appreciated it.

No criticism of the girls, they get paid and give what they want, but it's so transactional to the point of automation that I just can't anymore. The ones that do a good job faking it- you know I actually appreciate that. You're paying.. I'm paying for an experience an escape even if a cheap one. The glazed look, the lack of touching, the closed legs...nah, massive turn off for me.

Anyway happy punting.gents.
Maybe I'll make my way back here one day but take care!

[Footballpunter]

Hey bro, super appreciate your candid story. I think this is one thing to remember that not all punters are necessary just after the sex, some are, but surely some aren't. I think most of us are actually looking for that escape as well and it just comes in different shapes and forms. It's a shame that you didn't get the experience that you hope to get. I concur, at times, it's very transactional and I build zero connection with the girl. Mostly though, I find it happening when there's a clear language barrier. Sometimes they do have something to say, but just don't know how to convey the message. And I totally agree with you that the experience is night and day different when you can build a connection.

I wish you well, brother. It takes a real man to know what is actually good for him, and even more to walk away. Cheers.

[PKING2]

Hats off to you bro.

[Timeis629]

Sorry to hear the end is nigh
I’m a 65+ - late bloomer.
I have said before on other topics here - I have not had a problem - but prepared to pay the full price - always 90mins $120 and $150 upfront. Services vary with remedial massage or a sensual massage
-followed by BBBJ and/or covered DATY, body slides, pussy slides with FS depending on the girl and establishment. Been to Sydney Baby Massage, Thairapeutic, Lalabelles, Saigon Princess StMarys/Bexley and Sakura 689 Smithfield plus a few other odds and sods. What these places advertise by picture they delivered to me. Lately have two regulars one that delivers FS and the other does not but is sensational to be with.
I read a lot of criticism here but after being with around 30 different MLs and some on multiple occasions- as always YMMV.
The number of Massage Parlours us mind boggling - a YouTube video reckons Australia has the 5th highest sex workers in the world (Thailand no1).
St Mary’s now has around 14 shops (includes around 4 brothels in a 1 km strip. Surrounding areas are just as prolific.
So I guess the competition is immense.
I think your own personality and approach can always be a factor -?I mage sure I deliver myself as a quality customer to receive quality service. Sounds like my worst services are better than your best.
Good luck in retiring.
I’m off for a session tomorrow with one of my two regulars. It should be bliss.
Positive punting everyone.

[Hidden Python]

I was married and my late wife passed away from her 4 year battle with cancer on our wedding anniversary, I still live with the guilt of punting behind her back while she was healthy, but glad I stopped being a total bastard and focused being a loving caring devoted husband, while I had the chance, I never told her what I did, or ever say I was sorry, but I did get to say I love you everyday.
So the only advice I can give is, if you truely love your wife, stop punting and focus on spicing up your love life, go for a weekend away just the 2 of you, join a gym and train together so you can be sexually fit for each other, buy adult toys for the bedroom, watch porn together and try some new position, buy an inflatable mattress and try a soapy massage in the bathroom, anything so the both of you are sexually satisfied, so you don’t go back to old habits,

[frisson]

What a wonderful thread

It is so tiring to read the same questions repeated over and over
It's also tedious reading people asking questions about shops and then not feeding back about the recommendations they were given. All take and no give

You gave us your honest story so thanks

Bro. If you are in a loving relationship and the sex is good, my humble advice is to leave punting as you say.

Leave now

Karma will eventually catch up with you and it will affect your relationship badly in some way. It will. Unless your partner is fine with your hobby. Rarely they are

Karma will cause you to make a mistake or to take your relationship for granted. Trust me. The next punt will be a great punt and you will lose some feeling for your partner. Karma will bite. It absolutely will

Most punters here are single or aren't in a satisfactory relationship. Or they love lots of sex and monogamy is not an issue

I'm single
I would absolutely quit punting in an instant if I had a good lady who sincerely cared for me and not just my wallet, that had a job and we were sexually compatible. One million times better than a mistress or a money hungry sugar baby

Unless you are one of the millionaires on this forum who own their own homes and don't need to pay a mortgage or rent, sex is getting much more expensive with this recession. I can't really afford it now with my many bills and expenses. I know things are bad because brothels are telling me. WL need to be paid more due to living costs and customers have less money to spend

Many punters are paying $300-500 many days a month. That adds up to close to $5000 a year. Many men here easily spend more than $10 000 a year on paid sex. Nothing wrong with that

I recommend spending zero more money on punting, and $5000 a year on a holiday with your special lady to strengthen the relationship

Punting really is empty sex if it making you sad or broke. Punting by definition is always a business transaction

Throw out my advice if you don't agree

[andrewv]

There is a reality that is not often mentioned that some men cannot just bang away with a girl unless they have a degree of emotional connection with her.
This makes it difficult for them to simply arrive at a shop, pay the price, get undressed and immediately enjoy the physical experience.

Also, some men cannot switch off their brain activity while getting serviced. They think of the reality that the girl cares zip-all about them, and it's an exchange of cash for sex, and that she has most likely done the same to several other men earlier that day, and she kissed many others probably without washing her mouth and sucked several more cocks than theirs.
If a man cannot switch off these logical facts, then punting will not be enjoyable.

As for the concept of "cheating", there is a lot of research to show that many marriages survive because the husband can get an outlet outside a sexless marriage. And many women don't talk about it, but they feel it is safer for their husbands to pay for sex than to have affairs..... because emotional cheating for them is more hurtful than physical cheating.

[ditchtheboss]

Good on you mate. Best of luck and better leave before you click with someone which will make it infinitely harder to stop

[personaa]

Interesting reflection on your experience mate. All the bests to you.

[Pussyeater13]

Wow, wasn't sure how this would go down (not that I was posting for a particular reaction) but appreciate that it resonated with some, and also appreciate the different experiences and advice of others.
Stay safe, have fun!

[Sibon]

Of men and mice some will get out of it some will not and will make monetary sacrifice or pay the price for it.

We read that a beautiful wife of a punter had left him.......

It's Sayoonara, Auf Wiedersehen.

Ode to a man's strong will, good sense and iron determination not to let fake pleasure to get the better of him.

No other trade has perfected fakeness to such an art form. Fake photos, fake orgasm, fake moans etc. etc.

[Ghost2hauntU]

The current scene is dogshit OP and it’s almost guaranteed that you’ll have a string of mediocre at best punts in a row that will leave you less than satisfied. Had you punted a few years ago it was totally different.
At the risk of stating the obvious, if you want intimacy, mate you better find a regular with whom you have chemistry.

Let me tell you one thing, if you were punting in places like Saigon or Phnom Penh where you can take 20-25 year old beauties to your hotel for the entire night for the price of 6 beers at the pub, you’d change your mind real quick.

Sydney punting now sux. And unless the industry changes for the better to where it was before Covid, there will be lots more punters calling it quits and/or going to spend their well earned money overseas. I’m one of them.

[sukeong]

I cant understand with the married per cuz I am not married or attached currently so I dun understand how it feels or the baggage that comes with it.

I do understand with the transactional feeling of punting though. After years of experience with unsatisfactory sessions I am well familiar woth the transaction nature of it and it does come with immense feelings of being a huge downer. I still go to massage places cuz they sometimes comes with surprises but for me now I hardly go to brothels anymore. Especially the popular ones, where it's become more of a factory line and the wl just wants to get on with it and finish the job and on to the next. After a while it does get too routine, too cold, and not much enjoyment.

I'm hoping to get in SB scene and see what it brings. Might be the same or might be diffreren. I will find out.

All the best OP. Maybe it's for the good you leave the scene and save up the money rather than accumulating unsatisfactory experiences

[sukeong]

What a wonderful thread

It is so tiring to read the same questions repeated over and over
It's also tedious reading people asking questions about shops and then not feeding back about the recommendations they were given. All take and no give

You gave us your honest story so thanks

Bro. If you are in a loving relationship and the sex is good, my humble advice is to leave punting as you say.

Leave now

Karma will eventually catch up with you and it will affect your relationship badly in some way. It will. Unless your partner is fine with your hobby. Rarely they are

Karma will cause you to make a mistake or to take your relationship for granted. Trust me. The next punt will be a great punt and you will lose some feeling for your partner. Karma will bite. It absolutely will

Most punters here are single or aren't in a satisfactory relationship. Or they love lots of sex and monogamy is not an issue

I'm single
I would absolutely quit punting in an instant if I had a good lady who sincerely cared for me and not just my wallet, that had a job and we were sexually compatible. One million times better than a mistress or a money hungry sugar baby

Unless you are one of the yacht owners on this forum, sex is getting much more expensive with this recession. I can't really afford it now with my many bills and expenses. I know things are bad because brothels are telling me. WL need to be paid more due to living costs and customers have less money to spend

Many punters are paying $300-500 many days a month. That adds up to close to $5000 a year. Many men here easily spend more than $10 000 a year on paid sex. Nothing wrong with that

I recommend spending zero more money on punting, and $5000 a year on a holiday with your special lady to strengthen the relationship

Punting really is empty sex if it making you sad or broke. Punting by definition is always a business transaction

Throw out my advice if you don't agree

This is good advice. Maybe be bitter advice on punting forum but nevertheless sound and can be helpful to some.

[frisson]

I'm not being bitter. Anyone paying rent in Sydney or has a mortgage knows what I'm saying. It's only those who own their own homes can wake up with a smile on their faces
Regular punting is an expensive luxury. Quality of service needs to be high to justify the current prices

[TheOtherI]

Great thread!

I’m also a sook who likes intimacy, and have found that aimless sex in your 40’s, isn’t the same as it was in your 20’s. Especially when it’s transactional.

Although single, after dipping my toes back into the pond that is punting, I’m not sure how long I’ll stick around.

It’s not that it makes me sad or broke, but it doesn’t feel as though it’s as enriching, or rewarding, as it was my first time round.

All the best to all, and do as you please as long as it’s bringing you joy.

[Roshtosh]

Biggest issue for me is the lack of intimacy at home. She's a fantastic wife but between the sheets not so much so. I have not punted for a long time now but I had many good experiences of just passionate lovemaking but without the love. The experience of teasing, touching, kissing and buildup to the end is amazing. Life is all about experiences. I am probably going to punt again soon.

[l337dude]

Honestly, when I saw the title I was thinking: aah bloody hell, not another "I'm quitting for good thread" lol, not to discredit you in anyway OP, but in my experience most people who quit for good don't even bother coming back to the forum let along post a whole thread about it, if you think there's a chance you may come back, you probably will. Truthfully? you just started lol.

I will say this tho, you do make a good point for yourself (failing to establish an emotional connection with the girls) and your story does sound genuine so I'm willing to give you the benefit of the doubt, all the best to you and good luck with the rest of your journey, I sincerely hope we don't see you again, for your own good =)

[Raybo]

You will be back haha. Barely touched the surface. Not being mean or anything, it's a hard habit to break. Probably the best way to have sex and party.

[Footballpunter]

aimless sex in your 40’s, isn’t the same as it was in your 20’s. Especially when it’s transactional.

That's very true.