Dud punter - my problem.

[Rookiestones]

I'm a rookie punter. Been lurking around this forum and reading alot of interesting information, experiences and insights.

So after decades of hestiation, excuses and lack of confidence (basically I was just chicken shit) Ive finally bit the bullet and recently have had a handful of punts over the last few weeks.

I've visited 3x MLs and 3x WLs. In each session, I'd eventually cum. This is where it got interesting for me and I wasn't expecting this at all.

When the sessions get to part 2 and/or part 3, my little soldier wouldn't rock up (pun intended) to the battle. It stayed hidden in the trenches. Basically my dick was limp, it remained soft, wasn't rock hard!

Again, Yes i did cum but, it felt flat, soft release and very much forced. It has been very unsatisfying and a personal disappointment coz I know I can get it up and last longer.

I'm 40yrs old, married and have kids.

I've started punting because I like to try other pussys. I'm no different to every other punter in this forum.

When I reflect on the situation to understand what might be the blocker(s), here are what I've considered as possible causes:

- guilty conscience lingers in my mind
- lack of emotional connection with the wl/ml
- can't perform with new girl just met I.e. not a one night stand type of guy
- girl not hot enough to get me excited
- stage fright. All new experience and havnt got comfortable with new environment
- maybe I'm not ready to interact with ml/wl or it might not be for me?

Personally it's BS and all abit too much. Didn't think I'll have this problem to deal with but somehow im experiencing it. I don't know what it is exactly, yet. Could well be a combination of all the above.

Note: In between my recent punting endeavours. I had sex with my wife and it was normal. My dick was rock hard and the sex was good as usual.

Has anyone else experience this? If so, how did you overcome it?

[EYA06072021]

You think too much while punting. Clear your mind before going there. It’s not your performance show. It’s theirs. You come to enjoy, not to show how good on sex you are. They don’t really care as they see many customers per day. Soft, tiny, smelly, weir shapes, etc, they all see so don’t have to worry that you’re not good as that thought does affect your sex experience. Relax, and probably punt less?

[Roj]

Keep doing it! It gets easier!
I get your first 5 causes. You won't know if it's cause #6 if you don't keep trying different ladies!

[Meng]

You might also need to try a bit of medical help to overcome it. Maybe the blue pill?

[chaoticpotato]

Yeah there are probably multiple reasons, but try not to think so hard about it. Everyone is different. If a bit of you enjoys it then keep trying, if its not working for you then that's ok too

[DayMan69]

Can i suggest MLs first?

No 'performance anxiety' and 30 minutes of seductive massage to get your head and little fella into the game before a relaxing part 2. Plus, a NHJ is all about her performance, not yours. Spend the time finding a girl you like and see her regularly. As you build rapport, your anxiety will disapate.

Also, even though you're only 40 ish, a little blue help will take away one more thread of anxiety.

[RLC]

You are in my opinion overthinking it

[floppydick]

Do you ever walk down the street and see that young bit of pussy walking front then start imagining things and getting a hard on just thinking about it ?
Then when you see the front and face you go limp as a piece of seaweed ?

So where should you have stopped in the above episode ?

Punting is a bit like that. Its like finding an ML who is making an offer but not really telling you in advance where the limits are ... BUT still charging you like a wounded bull. Silly you for making assumptions.

[Niisato]

Agree with Dayman. Start with MLs where there's the option, but not pressure, to upside to FS if wanted.

Find a good place with lovely Thai girls, like SBM and work up from there (no pun intended).

[huytran]

It's all in your head.

I went through a period late last year where I cannot get hard whenever it comes to part 2 & 3 for about a month. It all comes down to stress level and your state of mind.

Now I just stare at their face and think about I'm fucking someone's daughter, someone's sister and someone's girlfriend - it always get me hard solid and across the line.

[limbi8888]

yeah i understand where your coming from, you need to relax, try talking to the ML/WL and think of it like a date.
Then you will relax and it will be fine

[Meng]

Yea bro happens to everyone. I even wrote a few ARs where in them I couldn't get it up or it went down too quickly. Mostly psychological.

[Rogeryou]

Anxiety is the #1 dick killer

[poida]

It gets better after a while, you will need to get mentally comfortable especially since ya married and starting out on the punting experience. The guilty conscience is the biggest thing to overcome.

If ya wanna try some extra assistance, i got some spare super kamagra tablets left, ya welcome take them for free to experiment.

[PKING2]

I love how this brotherhood of punters encouraging one another.

Maybe like bro @poida suggest, try super kamagra to experiment

[warwick1]

If sex is ok with your wife and ratshit when you try with a renta, don't fuck up your marriage, think of your family....

[ABG4LYF]

Hey brother, you need to calibrate out your mindset. You are punting to enjoy and not to please ML/WLs. Just relax and take it easy. I have a few sessions where I wasn’t really getting hard and I just acknowledge that sometimes you have good days and sometimes it wasn’t good. Just keep it behind you and enjoy! Goodluck

[CountryPunter]

I tend to agree with Warwick1.
You’re only 40, you’ve got a wife that’s looking after you well and you’ve got kids at home. You could stuff your marriage and loose your family if you get hooked on paying for pussies.
Paying for sex should be the domain of single guys or guys that aren’t getting looked after at home.

Not trying to tell you not to do it but be careful not to get hooked.

[Rookiestones]

Thank you to everyone that commented. All valid points and plenty there to ponder over.

I guess in my pursuit for that maiden punt and the few that followed, I applied too much pressure on myself and the feeling of angst that I couldn't shake off. Even just making my way to the shop was an anxious journey.

Now that I've had a taste of the punting scene, I've learnt a fair bit. I'm better for it.

Anyways, thank you again gents for your time. It has been a great help.

[yug]

Agree with Warwick1 and Country Punter!

Not trying to make it sound like an Alcohol Anonymous or Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting.
But I have been hooked on this for last 12 years.
Count your lucky stars and run away.

[JohnJones]

I remember paying for sex when I was married. At first it's because I was still addicted to fucking different pussies each punt but then I found a few that had really good techniques plus they're a 9/10 in looks so I started becoming their regulars instead of rolling the pussy roulette.

The dangerous part of becoming regulars to young hot WLs is that once they start to have the feels for you they suddenly ask you to be their boyfriend. I had to discreetly reject one hot Taiwanese WL just because I only wanted to fuck her and not ruin my marriage at the time. I would never end a marriage just because of another woman.

Back to the topic - the only time I can't get hard is if the WL is super fat & ugly, or the WL refuses to create some sort of sexual chemistry. Never had an issue with mental blockage - I guess it's because I trained myself over the years to not be gullible and to not engage in things that can make me gullible. I don't feel guilty for "cheating" sexually because I don't share the view of "the sins of the flesh", but if my emotions towards my partner fades because I'm drooling over another girl then of course I would feel guilty about it.

It's all in our childhood traumas that got brought over subconsciously through our adulthood. Fix that trauma of being emotionally abandoned and damaged and you'll start enjoying life. Just don't start having the thoughts of leaving your family for a young but promiscuous WL lol

[20red48]

I'm a rookie punter. Been lurking around this forum and reading alot of interesting information, experiences and insights.

So after decades of hestiation, excuses and lack of confidence (basically I was just chicken shit) Ive finally bit the bullet and recently have had a handful of punts over the last few weeks.

I've visited 3x MLs and 3x WLs. In each session, I'd eventually cum. This is where it got interesting for me and I wasn't expecting this at all.

When the sessions get to part 2 and/or part 3, my little soldier wouldn't rock up (pun intended) to the battle. It stayed hidden in the trenches. Basically my dick was limp, it remained soft, wasn't rock hard!

Again, Yes i did cum but, it felt flat, soft release and very much forced. It has been very unsatisfying and a personal disappointment coz I know I can get it up and last longer.

I'm 40yrs old, married and have kids.

I've started punting because I like to try other pussys. I'm no different to every other punter in this forum.

When I reflect on the situation to understand what might be the blocker(s), here are what I've considered as possible causes:

- guilty conscience lingers in my mind
- lack of emotional connection with the wl/ml
- can't perform with new girl just met I.e. not a one night stand type of guy
- girl not hot enough to get me excited
- stage fright. All new experience and havnt got comfortable with new environment
- maybe I'm not ready to interact with ml/wl or it might not be for me?

Personally it's BS and all abit too much. Didn't think I'll have this problem to deal with but somehow im experiencing it. I don't know what it is exactly, yet. Could well be a combination of all the above.

Note: In between my recent punting endeavours. I had sex with my wife and it was normal. My dick was rock hard and the sex was good as usual.

Has anyone else experience this? If so, how did you overcome it?

We went through the same phase! It was mostly the emotional connection with the ML/ WL. It gets dangerous because to build that level of connection with an ML/WL, you’d have to come back numerous times and it will cost you money.
Learn to separate the two, make your Dick work individually from your heart. When the time comes and you’re able to do this, you’ll even start exploring the kinkier side of things.

I actually started punting mainly to keep the “drive” alive. Personally, I just believe that I’m not built to just enjoy one pussy in my lifetime. Emotionally, I know the one person I want to spend the rest of my life with and yet my dick wants a smorgasbord!


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[JohnJones]

We went through the same phase! It was mostly the emotional connection with the ML/ WL. It gets dangerous because to build that level of connection with an ML/WL, you’d have to come back numerous times and it will cost you money.
Learn to separate the two, make your Dick work individually from your heart. When the time comes and you’re able to do this, you’ll even start exploring the kinkier side of things.

I actually started punting mainly to keep the “drive” alive. Personally, I just believe that I’m not built to just enjoy one pussy in my lifetime. Emotionally, I know the one person I want to spend the rest of my life with and yet my dick wants a smorgasbord!


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You're talking in the sense of an emotionally abandoned child living in your subconscious - always trying to please others hoping that they will one day validate your feelings...

Don't waste your time with anyone whom you don't have any chemistry with during the first meeting. Doesn't matter if it's people outside your punting adventures or when facing an ML/WL.

You're paying money for sex, so make it worthwhile by making a WL which ticks your boxes a regular if you'd like. You don't visit the same restaurants regularly after having food poisoning in hopes that it gets better, do you? Because if you do, you'd better write your will now and arrange who will inherit your stuff once you die out of stupidity.

[OLD SNAKE]

there is a product called Ultimate Male Fuel its a supplement available from Vitamin/ supplement shops this will help,
just some advice go get tested for STDs, and stick to massage ladies and no bare back blow jobs, otherwise you and your wife will both be on antibiotics for stds like syphilis, herpes, chlamydia,
and try explain that to her without getting a divorce

[Kiwi Punter]

- guilty conscience lingers in my mind
- lack of emotional connection with the wl/ml
- can't perform with new girl just met I.e. not a one night stand type of guy
- girl not hot enough to get me excited
- stage fright. All new experience and havnt got comfortable with new environment
- maybe I'm not ready to interact with ml/wl or it might not be for me?

Has anyone else experience this? If so, how did you overcome it?

Mate, this is very similar to me! Your first 5 issues are pretty common for me.

1. Although I’m not married, so my “guilty conscience” is really guilt about my internal issues with paying for sex in the first place. As others have said, don’t overthink it, but I also wouldn’t be doing it if I were married.

2. I very rarely have a connection with the wl/ml. When I do, I tend to stick with that girl (always a ml in my case) for a year or more, because it just works. If it progresses to FS, I tend to have no issues getting it up then.

3. This has always been a problem for me before first time sex. There have been very few girls (including non-wls) that I can get it up on the first time with them, which leads to embarrassing situations. Viagra tends to solve this one - I wished I had resorted to that at your age (I’m in my 50s), as it could have avoided such embarrassments.

4. For me, it doesn’t seem to matter how hot a girl is, if the connection is not there, there’s no erection without a pill or her doing some serious stimulation.

5. is just part of 3.

6. depends on each individual punter, but I’ve kept on trying (although to be fair, mainly with MLs).

As a result of my recent rather poor performance on a very rare WL visit, I have also started trying other things to see if they help, that may or may not be an issue for you.
- Reduced masturbation - I was masturbating every night, which I felt was making me less horny
- Cut out porn - I was masturbating to porn, which I think was psychologically fucking me up (could really only get erect while wanking to porn)
- When I do masturbate now, I use a Fleshlight rather than my very tight hand grip, as previously, even if I got hard, I would quickly lose the erection if the sex took too long, so I felt my dick was desensitised somewhat

Initial signs are that these changes are all making me hornier and harder.

Good luck!